Archive - Vanilla

Security junkies

To be a feminist of the security junkie variety: Cohabitation, splitting bills, chores. To want to live as wife and man, to want babies, maybe, to want…

Mar 12, 2023 •

June 2022

Dolphins do it better

I’ve been puzzling over the evolution of the female orgasm and the clitoris it comes out(?) of for quite a long time. Today I finally googled it…

Jun 22, 2022 •

February 2022

Gender is undergoing quite a speedy transition of late. As if we’ve been slowly edging through history, towards a point where we no longer need to…

Feb 13, 2022 •

December 2021

What do you need?

Some years ago I had a boss who would begin salary negotiations by asking the question “What do you need?”. He reasoned that his own salary, and that of…

Dec 15, 2021 •

October 2021

Here’s a prediction: within the next few years, straight white men will organise into activist groups and start fighting for their rights.

Oct 18, 2021 •

September 2021

I'll just finish myself off

When scientists declare that men are more horny than women, or that it’s easier for men to orgasm than women, I can’t help but get angry.

Sep 23, 2021 •

August 2021

How do you like your eggs?

It's not so much the fear of abortion that scares me, or the fear of pregnancy itself, but the fear of the situation I’ll find myself in if I discover…

Aug 31, 2021 •

April 2021

How to kill a baby

It is excruciating. I keep gasping and snapping it away from my clitoris. Too much. Invasion. Panic. Stress. Pain. Breathe, you remind me. I take a…

Apr 5, 2021 •

March 2021

It’s a girl, they cry!

Mar 23, 2021 •

Much ado about patriarchy

I Should Have Known Better by the The Beatles is playing.

Mar 10, 2021 •

February 2021

You can't mistake my biology

I sit on the toilet, waiting for the sperm to fall out of me. Every time I think it has, I stand up to wash off and low behold there is more, so I sit…

Feb 20, 2021 •

The lesbian experience

A couple of years ago, I set my Tinder to men and women, after having pursued men (and only men) for my entire sexual/romantic life.

Feb 8, 2021 •

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